Happy New Year / 2022 - may it be a joyous & blessed year for you and your families. I thought it'd be the perfect time to release an episode on making sustainable resolutions/goals for 2022 & beyond. I am hoping you're able to bring change in your life in the resolutions aspect after listening to this episode - do let me know how you get on!
Happy New Year / 2022 - may it be a joyous & blessed year for you and your families. I thought it'd be the perfect time to release an episode on making sustainable resolutions/goals for 2022 & beyond. I am hoping you're able to bring change in your life in the resolutions aspect after listening to this episode - do let me know how you get on!
Hello Hello. Oh, happy new year to everyone. I hope you have a great, great, great year 2022. Hope you folks. Aren't uh, too tired from all the partying that you may have done. Uh, though, I wish you all the success and all the happiness for 2022. So I thought that with the new year starting it is suitable, or it will be helpful if there is an episode on creating effective resolutions for 2022.
And. So I'm going to start as always with some quotes. So the first quote is by Michael alt Shuler, the bad news is time flies. The good news is you're the pilot. And then Buddha, uh, said, no matter how hard the past, you can always begin again. And you know, this whole resolution, this new year resolution thing.
I don't know. I, since I've been a victim of this since child. Um, of, you know, of creating resolutions of being asked by teachers and even parents, you know, uh, what are your resolutions? My friends asking me, um, and just that indirect pressure of doing it. I, if I didn't do it, I wasn't cool enough. So I remember when, um, social media first started.
People used to share their resolutions on social media, on Facebook. Oh, you know, I'm going to do this and I'm going to do this. Um, and then people would share posts about near resolutions and their stories and how far they've come and what they've achieved. And, um, and you know, you would feel formal in millennial world where it's a fear of missing out.
Um, and then what would happen is that, you know, you revise your resolutions. And surprise, surprise, surprise. Uh, you know, you shared them with your family, your friends, you shout about them, you're proud of them. And then you forget about it. And, uh, there's there there's some research has showed that almost 10%, less than 10% of people actually stick to their resolutions.
Uh, and majority of them quit after a few months. Um, and you know, this whole cycle, this new year resolution things become, uh, become an annual ritual. Right. And I don't know if you folks feel the same about. Though. I always felt, you know, I, I wrote down my resolutions on digitally, forgot about them, um, after a couple of months and then the new year, and then as December came or January of the new year, I'd like, you know, oh shit, let me write my new resolutions and all that stuff.
So, um, I'm not saying this a few times, exercise. It's really important to know what you're working towards. You know, what you want in your personal life. What you want in your work life, what you want in your social life, you know, do you want a better job? Do you want to make better quality friends? Do you want to increase your wealth?
And, you know, I just feel that you cannot live aimlessly, you know, uh, you, you need some sort of direction and I strongly, strongly believe goals and resolutions help you with that though. The question is, how do you create. Effective goals slash resolutions. And this is what we're going to focus for the next couple of minutes.
So, you know, I, I, I'm a big believer. Well, now I'm a big believer. Don't, don't get caught up in just having short-term resolutions slash goals. Um, I just feel that having short term goals add some sort of pressure. Um, of achieving something in a short span of time or, um, you know, uh, you have the pressure, oh shit, I need to do this by this certain date.
And then you, you know, then you start feeling, oh, I can't do this. I can't do this. And then you get into a vicious cycle, a vicious mental cycle of, you know, I'm, I can't do anything. I haven't achieved this. I'm a failure and so forth. So what I would do or what I would advise you is to start listing all the stuff that you want to.
Without a timeframe. So examples, uh, can be, you know, not be fat by summer 2020 to not be in the same job by end of 2022. Not failing my exam. Uh, become an extra word, more social, take up a hobby, uh, travel, save money. Uh, there's some far-fetched ones you could do as well. Like, you know, reduce carbon emissions, eliminate poverty, uh, improve relations with family.
Get married. Uh, so I know that's, you know, that's, that's an important resolution for many, uh, make my friends better people, uh, make the world a better peaceful place and end all words. So some of them are achievable. Some of them are, uh, could be, uh, ambitious. Then what you do is you, you have all these, uh, all the stuff you want to achieve without a timeframe, and then you can use a smart.
So S M a R T. So S a specific M is measurable. A is achievable. R is realistic and T is time-bound. And I really find that using this approach, and you may have heard it, um, you know, uh, using a smart approach in your work when you're making a presentation. Uh, though, I think it's, I believe actually it's applicable to many areas in our life and there's no reason why it can't be applicable to, um, when creating and formulating goals and resolutions.
Um, so I'm going to give some examples from my own, actually. Um, and, and if you guys remember, if you folks remember a couple of things, A goal. I think couple of months ago, actually I talked about, you know, identifying values and some values. And I think doing that really helped me, um, creating some smart goals.
So my first school was become comfortable in my own skin. And obviously that's very broad. So there's some sub values, some values or sub goals in that is, you know, attend all therapy sessions. Don't listen and act on my inner critic. Find out about how I can connect to my inner. And then meditated meditate for at least three minutes daily.
Now I haven't given this any time because, uh, becoming comfortable in your own skin is a long process. It doesn't happen overnight. It doesn't happen in two months. It doesn't happen three months. It's a lifelong, um, process. Hence I haven't really kept it. I haven't kept any time, um, constraint on it. So it's, it's a, long-term ongoing.
Um, and other ones build solid relationship with parents and others. So a sub goal was called my parents and grandparents every two days communicates with my sibling every three days. So very specific, very actionable, very realistic, and, uh, very measurable as well. Um, and another goal was become high potential at work.
So high potential meaning become, um, you know, high. So identify. So sub goals were identified quarterly project and deliver, ask questions. I had increased face-to-face interaction with office people. So the so identified the quarterly project was time bound, but these are realistic. These are tubal, and it's making some, this goal, this overall goal of becoming high potential work a bit more, uh, specific by having.
Uh, I think the biggest one for me was moving back to box down by summer 2021, I guess, CSCs, I achieved that. Uh, so some, some, some sub goals were use LinkedIn network to explore opportunities, uh, search and apply for jobs every month. And then school about business plan for a project by start of April, 2020.
So I've, I've, I've kind of broken my I've broken my goal of move back to Pakistan by summer 2022. So. And some of those sub goals are, time-bound very specific, very measurable. Other ones are, um, you know, uh, achievable action oriented, but don't necessarily have a timeframe. So those are some of the goals I, I wanted to share with you guys, um, of, you know, how it broke my goals into sub goals though.
Um, I'm not sure if you've noticed that the tone of these goals was very different. It wasn't, uh, It was, it was positive and it was specific. And this is something I want to share with you with you folks. So if you remember at the start of this episode or in the middle of this episode, I listed, um, D the two, I gave two examples not to be fucked by summer 2013.
And not being deceived job by end of 2022. So let's start with the, not be fat by summer 2022. And I I'm seeing this goal because I know a lot of people who start like this, so not to be fogged by summer 20 insurance too. I just think that encourages negativity right from the start. Um, it's telling you to do something is telling you not to do something, not to get fat.
And it kind of, I believe it kind of wakes up the rebellious child with. It wakes up your, uh, inner child, the inner rebellious, the inner rebellious part within you, because it automatically thinks, you know, you can't tell me not to do that. I will do that. You can't tell me not to get that. So maybe a better way, a better way to frame this goal would be you don't make a specific, so you could perhaps convert it into, you know, lose five kg by summer 2022 in a healthy and sustainable way.
So for. It's been specific and measurable, lose five kg, buy a loose 5k. G time-bound is giving a timeframe to it. So by summer 2022 and a healthy, sustainable way is it's being more realistic. So it's giving you options. It's not telling you to, you know, uh, stop carbs completely or stop eating fatty meals.
Um, you know, it's telling you to do something in a nice manner. So I think mentally, it kind of helps you. It helps. It helps frame that better. You can make peace with it. Um, so, and you know, sub goals could be, and then you can have the sub goals. You can break it down. So starting sec, second, January 20, 22, I should be eating veggies, uh, at least one in one meal per day, and I should exercise four times a week.
So you're giving, you're breaking this goal into more into sub goals, uh, in a smart way. And you're making the tubals. So you're not saying eating veggies for every meal, but at least incorporating at least. Uh, incorporating in one meal per day. Um, I'm not saying exercise seven times a week or two times a day, but four times a week.
And do you know, at least that's the minimum. So if you feel like you can exercise five times a week, that will, you can do that. And you'll probably feel a sense of achievement. Um, let's take this one, not being the same job for 2022. So my recommendation would be that you can perhaps frame this better start a new job.
I enjoy by January, 2020. So, um, you know, your sub goes can be update CV and think about what I like to do by 31st of January, 2022, including the type of role, obviously you have to be realistic. So if you study economics and you've practiced or been in an economics job, uh, or been an economist, um, you know, since you've graduated and you're not suddenly, you want to become an aerospace engineer, you need to be a bit realistic.
Um, so think about what roles you can do within your skillset. And if you really want to study into aerospace engineering, think about how you can start studying for that and trading for that. Um, and then, um, you know, if you're, let's stick to being an economist, you started looking for and jobs from first, February, 2022 on the appropriate networks you search for and attend networking events.
Um, and you know, you, you're kind of making this. You converting this goal of not being the same job by Andrew training training to do something a bit more smarter and a bit more positive. So starting a new job, I enjoy by January, 2023. So it's kind of putting a whole spin to this, try it out, take a goal list, all the stuff you want and, and, and, and, and, and see, um, big goals, um, and, and, and use some positive language around.
Um, now just coming back to, you know, perhaps, um, you know, some other goals, for example, uh, take up a hobby, not take up a hobby is very broad. Um, you know, you'd ask yourself, um, w what is my goal? Take up a hobby. So you need to make it very smart. You need to be specific. What kind of hobbies do you enjoy?
So, for example, I loved photography and I made one of my goals. Um, go for photography. Uh, excursion once a month. So that made it very specific that made it very measurable that made it very realistic. Um, and there was a timeframe too, as well, at least once a month. So think about that. What kind of, you know, be specific when it comes to your goals?
Um, and if you feel that you can't achieve it in 2022, you don't have to achieve it by 2022, you know, you could extend. Uh, for example, um, you know, become, become an extrovert. So how do you do that? You know, you, uh, sorry. Let's, let's take a step back. Um, let's not take that goal because that's, that's something that takes time, uh, you know, um, sorta.
Uh, inner child out or rebellious inner child out. So how you can do sub goals. It started going to therapy sessions, uh, from training train to, for at least two years, or at least a 10 to 20 sessions. And now those 20 sessions can take place over a course of one month, two months, three months. Um, so sometimes you just don't have to make sure you finish all these goals and resolutions in one year.
Sometimes they can be for longer because some things do take for longer, like. Um, I can become comfortable own skin in one year. It may take time. Um, so, uh, you know, there's some goals which I talked about, uh, reducing carbon emissions, eliminating poverty, making the world a peaceful place, uh, making my friends better people.
There's somewhat ambitious goals and somewhat out of your control. Uh, so, you know, you could perhaps make them a bit less than. And a bit more realistic. So for example, you can have a goal, a sub goal by, you know, start buying shoes and clothes from zero carbon companies. You know, that's a great start. You don't have to change the whole world, uh, though you can, you know, you do whatever you.
Um, if you want to eliminate, uh, you know, reduce poverty from this world, you can't do that. You need to be a realistic, uh, as ambitious as it sounds so you can start by saying, I'll donate 10 pounds, $10 or 500 rupees boxing, rupees every month to your favorite charity. I ordered to spread that word. You can share, you know, charity donation link on your social media page once a week, so you can make it like.
Um, and, uh, making the world a peaceful place. I mean, unless you're the us president or your, uh, the head of state of some country, or you're a well-renowned activists, I'm, I, I hate to break it to you, but this will be difficult. Uh, all you can do is be better nicer person and better to people, better towards people around you.
So at least that's what you can do. So I really hoped, I really hope that helped in helping you understand how to perhaps frame goals, um, and how to make and how to use a smart approach when framing them. Um, but do remember, do you know things always, don't always go to plan, um, as many plans as you may like to make.
Um, things always don't go to plan. Um, I realized that, you know, when I was 27, I was saying, know, I'm going to get married. I'm gonna have kids by the age of. 29, uh, and this and that, and I'm 34 and nothing of that sort has happened. So don't get hung up, um, on things on how. That's life and you just need to accept it.
However, it's better to take action to center your backside. So I believe that it's, it's important to have some goals, um, in life that kind of provides you direction. Uh, so you're not wandering aimlessly in your life. Uh, what could help you is, you know, if you review your goals every three months to see how you're tracking, are they realistic enough?
Has your situation changed? Has your environment changed? Um, and you know, you can reassess them and change them again. Um, I need to do them whenever you don't have to wait for the new year. You don't have to wait for 20, 22 or 20, 23 or 20, 24, do them in April, do them in March, do them in, you know, uh, do them, whatever.
Um, and you know, just have something in your hand to help you to help direct you in your life and change takes time, be patient, um, don't force yourself into doing something. Uh, Uh, because the quicker you do it, I think the easier it is for you to lose motivation, do it in a sustainable manner. And do remember that change always takes time.
So I really hope that that resolution part really helped you in, um, you know, helping you to gear for 2022 and start the year. And the subsequent years often are in a much more effective way. So I'm going to finish this episode with some weird news, two weird news items. So this guy was, um, has been banned from flying United airlines in the U S because he won't work a, or used a woman's underwear, um, as a mask.
Um, and apparently it wasn't covering his nose and mouth. Um, and he did the same thing on Delta airlines, uh, in which he got kicked off. I'm not sure if he's got bad from Delta airlines as well. Uh, and apparently to his defense, he was challenging the absurdity of the mosque wearing boots. Uh, I'm not sure how, I'm not sure why you would want to put other people's lives at risk.
Why you'd want to create chaos for, for no apparent reason. No. Where Musk by, by the rules save your life. Save other's lives as well. Right. Um, and this other news, uh, I'd perhaps, this is why I don't want to get married. But a woman FaceTimes her boyfriend during his 12 hour shift. So she would apparently the article said that she would be on FaceTime for the entire 12 hour shift.
Um, apparently she says that she trusts him, but not the females around him. Um, and I guess this guy works at a warehouse so he can take these long calls, uh, and she's added that she might quit her job to work alongside him. Uh, there was some interesting comments, uh, to that story, um, with the one with the, with the best one being is, uh, questioning how the phone battery lasted after the 12 hour call, which is a good question.
So anyways, um, you know, uh, the rule is never, never have trust issues with their partner, trust them, uh, where else, you know, it makes the, it makes the relationship last month. So anyways, hope you enjoyed that episode as always subscribe, rate and review share with the family and friends and keep listening.
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